Outer Focus
If your attention is on the other person and your have curiousity about the other person you will lose your fear. Most people love to talk about themselves so when you allow the other person to share and you listen they will like you more. Have a genuine interest in what the other person has to say and don’t get caught up in dominating the conversation. It is give and take.

Be Confident
“Ode de Confidence” is the best fragrance to put into the air. Confident people almost command your attention. There is something likeable and attracting about it.  I would bet that is something that you admire in others as well. You can work on developing confidence through books and various programs.

Observe Environment You’re In
Are there interesting pictures, art or sculpture,  music playing, unique colors, personel in unusual outfits, exotic food dishes? Anything, thats right,anything and anybody  around you can become a topic of converation. Of course common sense would tell us not to start saying negative things about anything or anyone. Find the positive or amusing aspect of something. Taking an improv class is a great way to learn to be able to think on the spot, to find fun ideas and to develop the confidence in expressing yourself.

Surefire Opener
This is the keep it simple technique. Get right to the point and do what many do. Say hi or hello. I’m ( your name) and offer your hand. It’s a natural and organic way to get things rolling. You can use your own hello styles. It can can be “whats’s going on,”, ” how’s it going ” or whatever fits your personality and comes naturally. And when you do shake hands give a nice firm shake. It sends a positive message rather than a ‘wimpy type” shake which sends a message of lack of confidence. And don’t forget to have eye contact as you shake hands.

Self Confidence
We have heard  many experts talk about self confidence in the dating arena or any area of life.

You get the confidence after trying to accomplish something and consistently trying till you have success.  If you give up you will never gain the advantage of that success.  The old “practice makes perfect” adage can hold some ground here when it comes to men wanting to attract single beautiful women.

What to do?  Everytime  you are ready to go out remind yourself about something you are very good at. No matter what is. Say it in your head like a mantra. I am really good at___, and fill in the blank.

Now this may seem kinda out there, but even carry a card with you tucked away and remind yourself of what you are great at. This will start a seed to ingrain in your mind a feeling. Confidence is a feeling. Approach women with the feeling you get from thinking about what you are good at.

Appearance
If you are sharply dressed that means wearing modern clothes from this era, unless you are into retro, that enhance your appearance is a plus when wanting to meet girls.

Simple jeans with a fresh crisp shirt with open top,  draped over your pants (sounds like a side dish) will make a positive statement about who you are.

Now a little trick is if you have a piece of jewelry or necklace showing to accent this outfit, you have a great conversation starter piece.  It makes you unique with this accessory, it makes a statement about who you are.  And if you have a chest tattoo partially showing that is also something to get talking about.

Now remember, you have to feel comfortable in what you wear and feel natural in it. Not like you are wearing an unfamiliar skin.

Knowing you are looking attractive will make you feel good about you  making you more attractive to a woman. Feelings have good energy . This is a great ” how do I approach women”  tip as your vibe will increase your chances of getting a  phone number and a date with any woman you want to meet.

Bad Boys Do Well
If you want to approach women, don’t give off any mixed message of wanting to just be friends. How do you do that? By being a bad boy and also flirting.
Play hard to get and play that there are other women who want you if they have no interest.

Also  approach women as if you are already in a relationship with them. Have the attitude  that you are  already connected and as if you have a history together.

You can play with this. Say fun things things like “So I have been waiting for you., I thought you stood me up”,  or  “You wore the outfit I told you doesn’t fit you style, why did you do that, You look better in red. You never pay attention to my ideas, next time red. OK actually blue is really good on you to.

This sense of bad boy  will through her off guard, keep her on her toes and engaged rather than being bored by predictable behavior.

So next time you are going out to socialize remember these 3 tips for approaching women and see the effect they have on your dating and love life.